Exploring existential questions · Meaning · Identity · Grief · Anxiety

Counselling for exploring life's questions

A space to explore the deeper questions of meaning, freedom and identity. These are often carried alongside anxiety, grief, or a struggling relationship. Warm, unhurried counselling — online across the UK, and walk-and-talk in Edinburgh. In English and Italian, with a therapist's care and an anthropologist's eye.

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Individual sessions from £80 · Concessions available · First conversation free · No obligation

Dr Irene M C Soldavini, BACP-registered counsellor and relationships therapist in Edinburgh
Dr Irene M C Soldavini · BACP Registered

Counselling for existential questions in Edinburgh & online, shaped by anthropology

Hello, I'm Irene. I'm a BACP-registered counsellor working in Edinburgh and online across the UK, in English and Italian. I work with people who want to explore life's existential questions. Many come carrying anxiety, low mood, grief, or a relationship that's foundering. Underneath, there are often questions about meaning, choice and belonging. My aim is a warm, unhurried space where you feel genuinely listened to. We explore these things together, at your own pace.

Most people come to me for the everyday reasons anyone seeks therapy. Anxiety, low mood, grief and bereavement, and difficulties in relationships. What I offer is a space to explore the existential questions that often sit underneath these. Questions of meaning, freedom, choice and mortality. Rather than treating symptoms in isolation, we stay with what's beneath them. Alongside my therapy training, I bring a background in anthropology — years spent studying how culture, relationships and social context shape our sense of self.

That background helps me work with people from migrant and diaspora backgrounds. It also suits multilingual and multicultural individuals, and anyone navigating questions of identity and belonging. I've worked across LGBTQIA2S+ mental health services, relationship counselling, and low-cost services in London and Edinburgh.

Whatever your background or the shape of your relationships, you're welcome here. If you're not sure where to start, you're welcome to request a free 10-minute chat.

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Awareness

Attention to how culture, power and context shape every story brought into the room.

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Compassion

A warm, professional space where your experiences can be heard and understood.

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Inclusiveness

An affirming practice for all identities, lifestyles, and ways of loving and connecting.

A phenomenological stance
I begin not from a diagnosis, but from your experience as you live it.

Phenomenology means setting aside assumptions and staying close to lived experience. How things feel, seem and matter to you, before we explain or label them. Rather than fitting you into a theory, I try to understand your situation from the inside. It underpins everything else I draw on.

Built around exploring existential questions

At the centre of my work is exploring existential questions. It's for anyone who wants to think deeply about their life, rather than just manage symptoms. Often, anxiety, grief or a stuck relationship is bound up with larger questions of meaning, freedom and how to live. Around that core, I draw flexibly on several traditions to find what fits you.

Existential exploration
The heart of how I work — meeting the questions of meaning, choice, freedom, isolation and mortality that shape a life, and staying with them honestly rather than explaining them away.
Phenomenology
Staying close to experience as you actually live it, before we explain or label — the careful, unhurried attention everything else rests on.
Psychodynamic therapy
Exploring how past experiences and unconscious patterns shape the present.
Compassion Focused Therapy
Building self-compassion and emotional resilience, including for grief and loss.
Existential anthropology
Understanding the real, lived experience of trying to make a meaningful life within the circumstances you're given.

What we can work on together

Identity & relationships

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Identity counselling

Support for exploring who you are. This can include life transitions, LGBTQIA+ matters, your cultural background, and neurodivergence. A space to understand yourself more clearly. More on identity counselling.

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Relationships & intimacy

Counselling for couples and for other relationship structures, including non-monogamy and polyamory (GSRD). All the ways people love and connect are welcome here. More on polyamory & non-monogamy counselling.

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Identity, culture & belonging

For people living between cultures. This includes migration, displacement, and multilingual or multicultural life. We explore what belonging means for you. Therapy in Italian.

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Gender & sexuality

Affirmative therapy for LGBTQIA2S+ people. I also offer affirmative therapy for sex workers and for people with unconventional lifestyles. More on gender & sexuality counselling.

Difficult feelings & life changes

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Grief & loss

Support through bereavement. Also through the quieter losses of change, separation, and letting go.

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Anxiety & feeling stuck

For when life feels overwhelming or isolating. A place to make sense of it, at your own pace.

Who this kind of therapy suits

I work with adults experiencing mild to moderate mental health difficulties — anxiety, low mood, stress, bereavement, life transitions and relationship difficulties among them. Some situations need specialist or multidisciplinary care instead, and as a counsellor I don't provide diagnoses or prescribe medication. If you're unsure whether this is the right fit, you're welcome to ask in a free initial chat — we can think it through together. More detail in the questions below.

If any of this sounds familiar, you don't have to work it out alone.

Request a free 10-minute chat

Sessions & fees

Online

Online counselling

Sessions via Zoom — a flexible, accessible way to find support from the comfort of your own space. Available in English and Italian, short or long-term. More on therapy in Italian.

In person

Walk & talk therapy

Walk-and-talk sessions in Edinburgh, with movement and open air as part of the reflective space. More on walk & talk.

Individual counselling50 minutes
£80
Relationship counselling50 minutes
£160
Concession rateIndividual · 50 minutes
£65

A limited number of concession-rate spaces are available. If you believe you qualify, please get in touch.

Qualifications & memberships

Qualifications

  • BA Anthropology & Communication, Goldsmiths University of London
  • MA Anthropology of Media, SOAS University of London
  • PhD Anthropology & Film Studies, SOAS University of London
  • Diploma in Couple Counselling, Relationships Scotland
  • Foundation Course in Core Process Psychotherapy, Karuna Institute
  • MSc in Existential Psychotherapy, NSPC — ongoing
  • Compassion Focused Therapy — Introduction, Grief & Hoarding, The Compassionate Mind Foundation
  • Introduction to Walk & Talk Therapy

Memberships

  • BACP registered member · no. 398713
  • UPCA trainee member
  • Member of the Society for Existential Analysis (SEA)
BACP registered member 398713 — accredited register, Professional Standards Authority

Areas of interest

  • Anxiety · Bereavement · Grief & losses
  • Consensual non-monogamy · Polyamory · Couple counselling
  • Diasporic issues · Displacement · Identity
  • Epistemic, hermeneutic & testimonial injustice
  • GSRD · LGBTQIA2S+ · Sex workers affirmative therapy
  • Isolation · Loneliness · Hoarding · Politics

Questions, answered

What does "mild to moderate" mean, and how do I know if I fit?+

Severity here isn't about how much your situation matters — it's a clinical way of describing how intense your symptoms are and how much they affect your ability to function day to day. Mild difficulties are present and can be distressing, but tend to interfere only modestly with everyday life — you are generally still able to work, maintain relationships and manage routines. Moderate difficulties are more intense or persistent and have a clearer impact on daily functioning — sleep, concentration, motivation, work or relationships may be noticeably affected — but you remain safe and able to engage in talking therapy.

Some difficulties fall outside what one-to-one counselling is designed to treat: severe, complex or enduring conditions such as psychosis, bipolar disorder, severe depression, eating disorders, or any situation involving risk to your safety usually need specialist or multidisciplinary care. If that's closer to your experience, I'd warmly encourage you to speak to your GP or one of the services listed at the foot of this page. And if you're unsure where you fit, just ask — we can think it through together in a free initial chat.

Can you give me a diagnosis?+

No — as a counsellor I don't provide formal diagnoses or prescribe medication. A diagnosis can only be made by a GP, psychiatrist or clinical psychologist. What I offer is a space to understand and work through your experience — and, where helpful, I can support you in seeking an assessment elsewhere.

What does "phenomenological" mean in practice?+

It means I start from your experience as you actually live it — staying close to how things feel, seem and matter to you, before reaching for any theory or label. Rather than fitting you into a fixed model, we stay with the texture of your situation and draw, where it helps, on psychodynamic, existential and compassion-focused ideas — deciding together, openly, as we go.

Do you work in languages other than English?+

Yes. Sessions are available in both English and Italian. Multilingual and multicultural experience is a particular focus of my work.

Where do walk-and-talk sessions take place?+

In Edinburgh. We walk together while we talk, using movement and open air as part of the reflective space. Online sessions are available everywhere in the UK via Zoom.

Is your practice LGBTQIA2S+ and GSRD affirmative?+

Yes — fully. I offer affirmative counselling for LGBTQIA2S+ people, polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships, sex workers, and people with unconventional lifestyles. All identities and relationship structures are welcome.

Does "Dr" mean you are a medical doctor?+

No. The title "Dr" denotes an academic qualification — my PhD in Anthropology and Film Studies — not a medical one.

Can you help in a crisis?+

I am unable to provide a crisis service. If you need urgent help, please contact your GP, NHS 24 on 111, or the Samaritans on 116 123, and in an emergency call 999. A full list of urgent support is at the foot of this page.

How soon will I hear back after emailing?+

I read every email myself and reply personally, usually within a couple of working days. There's no automated system and no obligation — the first conversation is simply a chance to ask questions and see whether working together feels right.

How to start

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Send a short email

A line or two is plenty — just say you'd like a first chat. There's no form to fill in and nothing you need to explain yet.

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A free 10-minute conversation

We talk briefly, with no obligation, so you can get a feel for me and ask anything you'd like. Finding the right fit matters more than anything.

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Begin when you're ready

If it feels right, we arrange a first full session — online across the UK, or walk-and-talk in Edinburgh. If it doesn't, that's completely fine too.

Reaching out for the first time can feel like a big step. You're welcome to take it at your own pace.

Taking the first step

Arrange an initial conversation

Finding the right therapist matters. I'd be glad to discuss whether therapy with me feels the right fit for you.

I read every enquiry myself and reply personally, usually within a couple of working days. Please don't include anything you'd rather not send by email — we can talk properly when we speak. If you'd prefer, you can email me directly at drimcsoldavini@proton.me.

OnlineVia Zoom, across the UK
In personWalk & talk · Edinburgh
LanguagesEnglish & Italian

Urgent support & crisis services

I am not a crisis service and cannot offer emergency or out-of-hours support. If you are struggling right now, please reach out to one of the services below — free, confidential, and there to help.

999 In a life-threatening emergency, or if you've seriously harmed yourself, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E.
NHS 24
Call 111

Urgent mental health support in Scotland — call 111 and choose the mental health option.

24 hours · every day

Samaritans
116 123

A safe, confidential space to talk, whatever you're going through. Free to call.

24 hours · every day

Breathing Space
0800 83 85 87

A confidential phone line for anyone in Scotland aged 16+ feeling low, anxious or depressed.

Mon–Thu 6pm–2am · weekends 6pm–6am

Edinburgh Crisis Centre
0808 801 0414

Community-based emotional and practical support in crisis, for people aged 16+ in Edinburgh.

24 hours · every day

SHOUT
Text 85258

Free, confidential support by text message from a trained volunteer, if you'd rather not call.

24 hours · every day

CALM
0800 58 58 58

The Campaign Against Living Miserably, for anyone affected by suicide or suicidal thoughts.

5pm–midnight · every day

These services are free and confidential. Many have their own policies if they believe someone is in immediate danger — you can ask them to explain when you call. If you are already under the care of a mental health team, your care plan should say who to contact in a crisis.